Do men feel cheated when a woman wears an extra-padded bra, to the point where her breasts appear one or more cup sizes larger than reality? Why or why not?
Victoria's Secret's new ad touts their Miraculous Push-Up bra as one that adds 2 cup sizes. When it comes down to it, do men consider this false advertising and are disappointed when that C-cup is really an A?
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Will Wister
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I don't feel cheated. I'm used to girls wearing padded bras, especially for certain body types - I actually expect it.
This question is akin to asking "Do you feel cheated when you first see the girl you're dating without makeup?" Of course you shouldn't feel cheated. These things are expected.
Also, I think sometimes you can tell whether a girl is wearing a padded bra even before she takes off her shirt. Shirts hang and drape in various ways, and with experience it's possible to figure these things out.
In life, I think it's easy to be sensitive and feel easily wronged, but in this case, it's really not a big deal. There are so many techniques that girls use to look good and rather than getting frustrated at them for that, I applaud them.
This question is akin to asking "Do you feel cheated when you first see the girl you're dating without makeup?" Of course you shouldn't feel cheated. These things are expected.
Also, I think sometimes you can tell whether a girl is wearing a padded bra even before she takes off her shirt. Shirts hang and drape in various ways, and with experience it's possible to figure these things out.
In life, I think it's easy to be sensitive and feel easily wronged, but in this case, it's really not a big deal. There are so many techniques that girls use to look good and rather than getting frustrated at them for that, I applaud them.
Anonymous
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Um, ok...so I'm just gonna up and say it: yes, we do, dammit. Why?
Again, as I said in (3), whether a guy can get over the disappointment of suddenly finding out you're an A when he expected a C is a whole different subject. Who knows, maybe he's never had a salsa partner as responsive as you, or maybe your incredible flexibility totally makes up for it, or at that point he just loves you so much that he doesn't care. Whatever. I personally just find it absurd that many women buy into these ridiculous advertising campaigns.
- First and foremost, let's make this clear: it's not just about the size of your boobs. Every man has a different range of physiques he finds sexy, and for every cup size, there are thousands, if not millions, of men who would find your breasts beautiful and exquisite. While physical in nature, the issue of disappointment also encompasses your horrible lack of self-confidence regarding your physical assets--and that, in a long-term relationship, is not something any sane man wants to deal with.
- It's usually pretty obvious. Make-up is one thing--when artfully done, it's a subtle enhancement to highlight a woman's foundational attractiveness. Using a push-up bra is like trying to make a sidewalk into a 4-lane superhighway--the physics of how a C cup moves/bounces is so inherently different from an A that most blokes with half a brain and a working pair of eyes can tell you're faking the cleavage.
- You screw up a good chunk of the basis for physical attraction between you and your partner. A guy who's into curves is not going to be particularly pleased to suddenly find he's going to have a lot less to play with than he initially thought. Whether he's willing to compromise on his ideals of feminine beauty for the duration of the relationship is a completely different matter: if it's a one-night stand, then he's probably going to roll with the punches. If it's dating/an actual relationship, that's up in the air.
- Having small boobs isn't even remotely close to a dealbreaker for many men. Lying, on the other hand, is. Think about it: small boobs do not exclude you from having a great ass, an amazing personality, and mad salsa skills. Assuming the guy was utterly inebriated or wasn't experienced enough to tell that you're using a push-up bra, getting naked for the first time and letting the guy find out you've been tricking him all along isn't exactly a nice thing to do.
Again, as I said in (3), whether a guy can get over the disappointment of suddenly finding out you're an A when he expected a C is a whole different subject. Who knows, maybe he's never had a salsa partner as responsive as you, or maybe your incredible flexibility totally makes up for it, or at that point he just loves you so much that he doesn't care. Whatever. I personally just find it absurd that many women buy into these ridiculous advertising campaigns.
Jessica Hensley,
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I always wear padded bras. It's more comfortable, and, it makes me feel more confident. When it comes to dating a guy, I ALWAYS tell them upfront my real breast size; I never keep it from them. My guys never complain. But if a guy wants to leave based on your breast size, he isn't worth your time.
Marcelle Bonterre,
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For like a millisecond. Then, boobs. Men really don't care about the size of your breasts, least of all when they're exposed. There are more important things on our minds at that point.
Anonymous
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Take it from a 28 y/o woman who usually wears padded bras; They feel disappointed. Very disappointed.
I actually don't wear maximizer bras to make my boobs look bigger. I live in a small European country, and I'm painfully too petite - too short (155cm) and too skinny. Which is very unusual compare to most women in my country, most brands don't even make clothes for my size. And when I can find an XXS top, this time my A cup boobs cause a problem. There's actually an empty space because they've made that shirt/dress for women who have larger breasts like most women in my country. So my only options are; A) Wear a padded maximizer bra B) Go to work/a date with a shirt I'll get from a kid's store that has a dinosaur picture on it. I go with the option A, and that really causes a problem when it comes to dating.
When I'm on a date, I usually try to find a way to tell the guy my boobs aren't as big as they seem. High expectations = high disappointments, I'm aware of this, and I try to avoid him getting disappointed by telling the truth. I can't always open the subject, and even if I do, sometimes the guy doesn't believe and just assume I'm trying to make my boobs look bigger and I must have confidence issues, or he does believe, but you can still see the disappointment in his eyes. Does this disappointment comes from because he wouldn't like me if I had smaller boobs? No. Guys like all sizes of boobs and if they like a girl, they wouldn't mind her having small boobs even though they normally prefer big boobs. So this disappointment happens because my body isn't the way it looks. Just think...you're dating a blonde, tall guy. You don't care if he's blonde or tall. Then you go to bedroom and the guy you see is a short, brunette guy. How can you not get disappointed? That's not the guy in your head! You didn't fantasize having sex with a short, brunette guy, so everything is new to you now.
I actually don't wear maximizer bras to make my boobs look bigger. I live in a small European country, and I'm painfully too petite - too short (155cm) and too skinny. Which is very unusual compare to most women in my country, most brands don't even make clothes for my size. And when I can find an XXS top, this time my A cup boobs cause a problem. There's actually an empty space because they've made that shirt/dress for women who have larger breasts like most women in my country. So my only options are; A) Wear a padded maximizer bra B) Go to work/a date with a shirt I'll get from a kid's store that has a dinosaur picture on it. I go with the option A, and that really causes a problem when it comes to dating.
When I'm on a date, I usually try to find a way to tell the guy my boobs aren't as big as they seem. High expectations = high disappointments, I'm aware of this, and I try to avoid him getting disappointed by telling the truth. I can't always open the subject, and even if I do, sometimes the guy doesn't believe and just assume I'm trying to make my boobs look bigger and I must have confidence issues, or he does believe, but you can still see the disappointment in his eyes. Does this disappointment comes from because he wouldn't like me if I had smaller boobs? No. Guys like all sizes of boobs and if they like a girl, they wouldn't mind her having small boobs even though they normally prefer big boobs. So this disappointment happens because my body isn't the way it looks. Just think...you're dating a blonde, tall guy. You don't care if he's blonde or tall. Then you go to bedroom and the guy you see is a short, brunette guy. How can you not get disappointed? That's not the guy in your head! You didn't fantasize having sex with a short, brunette guy, so everything is new to you now.
