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What are common "shit tests"? The term "shit test" is commonly used in PUA activities when a girl throws out an unusual compliment or comment to a male to test the answer.
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"The term "shit test" is commonly used in PUA activities when a girl throws out an unusual compliment or comment to a male to test the answer. "
Firstly, I'd like to give you a better definition of a 'shit test'. A shit test is a woman's way of calibrating whether or not you are a 'good catch'. And to be a good catch, you must be successful physically, socially, mentally and financially. Because of this, she will test you on all 4 fronts.
Social Shit Test: These shit tests occur in EVERY single type of shit test and is therefore, the most important one to be aware of. These shit tests target your ability to be socially successful. Being socially successful requires you to be able to control an audience, sway a group of friends and lead them. Basically, your personality isn't that of a follower. You are independent, confident in yourself, resourceful, self-sufficient, charismatic, charming and don't take shit from just anybody. All shit tests target your social success, so I won't be giving any specific examples of this here, and will instead refer to examples further down this post. In a nutshell, social shit tests target your social dominance. If you appear submissive by complying to their requests and comments, you instantly become unattractive. Remember, leaders are attractive, and followers are not. In other words, a high status male is attractive, while a low status male is not. Now, one of the easiest ways to appear submissive (a low status trait) is by trying to justify yourself. Justifying your actions shows insecurity in what you've said or done, as you believe it's worth it to explain what happened in your point of view. This is bad because it shows that you are insecure and not confident in your own thoughts, actions and beliefs. It shows that you are seeking their approval, and therefore, are of lower status compared to them. NEVER justify your actions. It is one of the worst things you can do when attempting to pick up women.
Mental Shit Test: For the most part, mental success comes from being able to have good habits, values, and being intelligent. Mental shit tests target these traits by questioning your values, your intelligence and maybe even attempting to break your good habits. An example would be if a girl asks you to do something for her a certain day, knowing that she's going to have you break your good habit of working out every day. If you fall for it and do what she asks, she'll realize that you can easily break your good habits (mental shit test failure) and that you easily succumb to another person's requests (being submissive is a social shit test failure). Another example would be if she questions your intelligence. I'm pretty sure I don't have to give you any examples of that.
Physical Shit Test: Physical success comes from being tall, strong, and being below about 20% body fat (so as to not appear chubby). A physical shit test can be easily interpreted as "Are you physically capable of doing X?". Girls will try to get you to do feats of strength, and if you fail, you'll tend to look weaker than you really are. And this doesn't coincide with just strength either... If a girl asks you to grab a book at the top shelf in a library, she's making jabs at your height. Not only that, but if you actually fall for the physical shit test by even attempting them, you'll be seen as submissive (social shit test failure).
Financial Shit Test: Being financially successful means that you have steady income and are wealthy enough to afford the basic human needs of food, water, and shelter, as well as having some extra money for some small luxuries. Girls can constantly shit test you by asking you to buy things for them. And again, if you actually follow through with their requests, you'll appear submissive (social shit test failure).
Dealing with Shit Tests:
The easiest way to deal with shit tests is to just ignore them completely. You fail as soon as you play the game.
A great way to deal with shit tests is the tried-and-true "Agree and Amplify". The reason why this method works is because it eliminates all signs of being bitter, insecure, a sore-loser, etc., the hallmarks of being a social failure (remember that being successful socially is the most important aspect of being a 'good catch').
Example:
When opening a set, the girl says "Is that your line/routine?"
The bad response would be to say "No it's not!" or "I don't have a routine." Here, you're basically trying to justify your actions.
The good response would be to say "Yeah, I was practicing in front of a mirror all morning." or "Hey! Don't go off script!". These responses are examples of the Agree and Amplify method as you're agreeing with them in the idea that this was your routine, but you're also amplifying it by going even further and telling them not to go off script from your routine. Doing so turns the entire situation into a joke, alleviating any stress the girl has (because hey, girls also get some stress when a guy approaches them. You can alleviate this stress by cracking a joke!).
Here are a few examples of shit tests and proper responses to them:
If the girl says "Do you do this to every girl you take out/date?" A good response would be to say "Yes, but you're the only one who's fallen for it so far."
If a woman asks "How many girls have you been with?". This one tests whether you are seen as a good catch by other women, and therefore, determines whether this girl should also see you as a good catch. Remember, girls don't like guys that aren't valued by other women. A good response to this would be to say "I didn't know I was supposed to keep count." or "I've never even touched a boob before!". The first one is an example of A&A, while the second one is the method of self-disqualification. Self-disqualification works because it immediately lowers a woman's guard. Why? Because now they know you're not seeking their approval or praise, and that you have a good sense of humor. You've literally just told them you haven't touched a boob before. Of course, this has to be said in a joking manner, otherwise, you'll just come off as a loser who's really never touched a boob before.
Shit tests are easily identifiable when you get commented on your physical, social, mental and financial success. Basically, just don't take things too seriously. Make all shit tests into a joke. It shows that you don't take yourself too seriously, that you have a good sense of humor (can alleviate any bad stress from the situation), and most importantly, that you're not submissive (too agreeable/seeking validation and approval).
Firstly, I'd like to give you a better definition of a 'shit test'. A shit test is a woman's way of calibrating whether or not you are a 'good catch'. And to be a good catch, you must be successful physically, socially, mentally and financially. Because of this, she will test you on all 4 fronts.
Social Shit Test: These shit tests occur in EVERY single type of shit test and is therefore, the most important one to be aware of. These shit tests target your ability to be socially successful. Being socially successful requires you to be able to control an audience, sway a group of friends and lead them. Basically, your personality isn't that of a follower. You are independent, confident in yourself, resourceful, self-sufficient, charismatic, charming and don't take shit from just anybody. All shit tests target your social success, so I won't be giving any specific examples of this here, and will instead refer to examples further down this post. In a nutshell, social shit tests target your social dominance. If you appear submissive by complying to their requests and comments, you instantly become unattractive. Remember, leaders are attractive, and followers are not. In other words, a high status male is attractive, while a low status male is not. Now, one of the easiest ways to appear submissive (a low status trait) is by trying to justify yourself. Justifying your actions shows insecurity in what you've said or done, as you believe it's worth it to explain what happened in your point of view. This is bad because it shows that you are insecure and not confident in your own thoughts, actions and beliefs. It shows that you are seeking their approval, and therefore, are of lower status compared to them. NEVER justify your actions. It is one of the worst things you can do when attempting to pick up women.
Mental Shit Test: For the most part, mental success comes from being able to have good habits, values, and being intelligent. Mental shit tests target these traits by questioning your values, your intelligence and maybe even attempting to break your good habits. An example would be if a girl asks you to do something for her a certain day, knowing that she's going to have you break your good habit of working out every day. If you fall for it and do what she asks, she'll realize that you can easily break your good habits (mental shit test failure) and that you easily succumb to another person's requests (being submissive is a social shit test failure). Another example would be if she questions your intelligence. I'm pretty sure I don't have to give you any examples of that.
Physical Shit Test: Physical success comes from being tall, strong, and being below about 20% body fat (so as to not appear chubby). A physical shit test can be easily interpreted as "Are you physically capable of doing X?". Girls will try to get you to do feats of strength, and if you fail, you'll tend to look weaker than you really are. And this doesn't coincide with just strength either... If a girl asks you to grab a book at the top shelf in a library, she's making jabs at your height. Not only that, but if you actually fall for the physical shit test by even attempting them, you'll be seen as submissive (social shit test failure).
Financial Shit Test: Being financially successful means that you have steady income and are wealthy enough to afford the basic human needs of food, water, and shelter, as well as having some extra money for some small luxuries. Girls can constantly shit test you by asking you to buy things for them. And again, if you actually follow through with their requests, you'll appear submissive (social shit test failure).
Dealing with Shit Tests:
The easiest way to deal with shit tests is to just ignore them completely. You fail as soon as you play the game.
A great way to deal with shit tests is the tried-and-true "Agree and Amplify". The reason why this method works is because it eliminates all signs of being bitter, insecure, a sore-loser, etc., the hallmarks of being a social failure (remember that being successful socially is the most important aspect of being a 'good catch').
Example:
When opening a set, the girl says "Is that your line/routine?"
The bad response would be to say "No it's not!" or "I don't have a routine." Here, you're basically trying to justify your actions.
The good response would be to say "Yeah, I was practicing in front of a mirror all morning." or "Hey! Don't go off script!". These responses are examples of the Agree and Amplify method as you're agreeing with them in the idea that this was your routine, but you're also amplifying it by going even further and telling them not to go off script from your routine. Doing so turns the entire situation into a joke, alleviating any stress the girl has (because hey, girls also get some stress when a guy approaches them. You can alleviate this stress by cracking a joke!).
Here are a few examples of shit tests and proper responses to them:
If the girl says "Do you do this to every girl you take out/date?" A good response would be to say "Yes, but you're the only one who's fallen for it so far."
If a woman asks "How many girls have you been with?". This one tests whether you are seen as a good catch by other women, and therefore, determines whether this girl should also see you as a good catch. Remember, girls don't like guys that aren't valued by other women. A good response to this would be to say "I didn't know I was supposed to keep count." or "I've never even touched a boob before!". The first one is an example of A&A, while the second one is the method of self-disqualification. Self-disqualification works because it immediately lowers a woman's guard. Why? Because now they know you're not seeking their approval or praise, and that you have a good sense of humor. You've literally just told them you haven't touched a boob before. Of course, this has to be said in a joking manner, otherwise, you'll just come off as a loser who's really never touched a boob before.
Shit tests are easily identifiable when you get commented on your physical, social, mental and financial success. Basically, just don't take things too seriously. Make all shit tests into a joke. It shows that you don't take yourself too seriously, that you have a good sense of humor (can alleviate any bad stress from the situation), and most importantly, that you're not submissive (too agreeable/seeking validation and approval).
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If you approach a girl and she says, “are you hitting on me?” Don’t say something stupid like, “Uh, no, I, I, I was, just, saying hi”. Don’t do that, just calmly, say, “Yes, where are you from”.
It’s so important to not put up with her “Tests” or attempts to steer the conversation. These tests are NOT there to make you feel like shit. They are there because she wants to see that you are a man that is superior than the rest. When she asks you something, either don’t answer it and ask an interview question like, “Where are you from?”, or just tell her, “Stop, don’t do that, where are you from?”.
This is so important because you MUST hold your frame that goes into the interaction. If you approach her with a dominant, confident, and deep voiced, “What’s up? I’m Kevin”, you better be like that through almost the whole interaction.
Yes, all of this CAN and WILL happen within the first minute of the conversation.
It’s so important to not put up with her “Tests” or attempts to steer the conversation. These tests are NOT there to make you feel like shit. They are there because she wants to see that you are a man that is superior than the rest. When she asks you something, either don’t answer it and ask an interview question like, “Where are you from?”, or just tell her, “Stop, don’t do that, where are you from?”.
This is so important because you MUST hold your frame that goes into the interaction. If you approach her with a dominant, confident, and deep voiced, “What’s up? I’m Kevin”, you better be like that through almost the whole interaction.
Yes, all of this CAN and WILL happen within the first minute of the conversation.
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