Totally fucked up my relationship - we ended up divorcing. Here’s what happened. I was really interested in us having a mmf threesome, and I was turned on by the idea of her with another man. I met this guy while having coffee - he was a graduate student at the university that My ex worked. He mentioned that he was into smoking (Cannibus) - and I immediately thought that this could be a way to easily introduce him to my ex.

The other thing was - he was an ex athlete and was about 6’5”. A lot taller than me and probably 240. After talking a bit, I showed him a picture of my ex - he was like ‘oh man - she’s cute!” I mentioned that we were open in our relationship - and he immediately suggested that we should all hang out. I could read his body language that he was interested in her. Big mistake.

Anyway he came over, and my ex and him smoked out while I ran some errands. They just talked. Then like a couple weeks later - I told her she should text him to get some pot. I also said I was ok if they hung out more - and she said “it could get complicated”. I assured her I was ok with them hanging out. I implied that I was ok with her getting close to him and she knew what I meant.

Anyway she texts him. He immediately tells her she’s very sexy and she should stop by. She again asks me if it’s ok - and I tell her yes - absolutely.

A few days later she visits him at his place. She spends like 2 or three hours over there and I thought she would get some pot while she’s there. She comes home - no pot. She seemed totally normal, and assures me they just hung out and talked.

Anyway I look at her texts. They are both texting about how she squirted - and she says to him that she ‘had never had sex like that before.”

I confront her. She admits it no problem - and is very calm about it. She tells me that she experienced something unbelievable and that we probably should stop having sex! I was blown away. I couldn’t believe it.

Anyway they begin to have sex daily, at our house, regardless of me. They guy told me that she was his now. Everything changed after that. She started painting her nails hot red. She cut her hair. I saw that she shaved her vagina. A one point I asked if I could watch them. She laughed and said no way. However he texted me a video of them - he had her tied up and she was crying during sex. She had a gag ball in.

The kicker is that I also found out she stated having sex with him and another guy as a threesome. Which is ironic in that - that was the fantasy I wished would have happened - at least in the beginning.

She divorced me about two months later. Luckily we had no kids.

It was a horrible experience and im honestly still effected - three years later. I wish it never happened. I feel like it was completely my fault and I brought it on myself. Lesson learned.